Are you Self-Sabotaging Your Financial Success?
By Clyde Anderson Economic Renewal Expert
“Success is, knowing your purpose in life, growing to our maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others”
What have you been waiting for to go after the life you envision? Maybe it hasn’t been the right time, waiting for kids to grow up, you didn’t know how, you weren’t motivated, you didn’t believe you could, you’ve been self sabotaging yourself, you’ve been thinking Poor Thoughts or maybe you’ve just been waiting for something to happen instead of making something happen. So what have you been waiting for?
Answer the 4 questions to determine if you’re self sabotaging:
Do you make excuses as to why you haven’t done certain things? If so why?
No one cares about your excuse no matter how valid. The majority of people are not anti-you, but rather they’re pro them, so at the end of the day the if your excuse in some way effects them all they hear is that you didn’t deliver or do what you were supposed to do. Focus on doing the best you can, but when you fall short accept it, vow to be better and push forward.
Are you doing things daily to move closer to success? How is that working out for you? I’ve shifted how I do thing, but the goal is still the goal. The method to get there or the path may have changed, but not the goal. You are where you are today because of what you did yesterday. Ask yourself are you doing something daily that moves you closer to seeing your vision manifest.
Are you listening to the voice of Comfort. The critical inner voice likes to keep us in a box, stuck to an identity assigned to us. It often tells you that you’re stupid or a failure, but also whispers, “You’re fine in the job you’re in even-though you don’t make enough money to make ends meet. You shouldn’t have to do more work, you work hard enough. Buy that new outfit and worry about your bills later. Take that trip, you deserve it, even-though you haven’t paid the mortgage/rent. Turn on the TV and relax. Don’t worry about your goals today. This soft, voice warns us of potential dangers: “Don’t embarrass yourself. Stay where you are. You’re not going to be able to start that business. You’ll only be disappointed and humiliated. You don’t need to make all that money anyway” Listening to this voice may feel comfortable at first, but once we give in to bad habits or avoid going after what we want, our inner critic starts in with the self-punishing thoughts: “You’re a loser. You’ll always be right where you are. Just give up. That’s impossible.”
Do you allow fear to stop you: fear is usually at the root of what holds us back—fear of the unknown or unfamiliar, fear of failure, fear that our critical inner voice will be proven right or overpower us, fear that we will have too much to lose or that we will have to face pain or rejection. The truth is we are much more resilient than we think. That same inner voice that tells us we can’t handle obstacles feeds our fear. Don’t focus on what you don’t want to happen but rather what you do. Realize there is nothing to fear, but fear itself, the thief of most dreams.
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