We are identifying ways to determine when our romantic partner be it your spouse or your significant other is in a bad mood and how we can manage ourselves when our partners just have some things going on.
Evaluate your own reaction to their mood. If you find yourself feeling depressed it’s often because you are around someone who is depressed. Moods are contagious. Often—but certainly not always—your reaction to your partner’s mood will be to imitate it (i.e., they’re down so you become down; they’re angry so you become angry, and so on). This is to be acknowledged first…
Take responsibility for your own mood, not your partner’s. Your own emotional reaction to your partner’s bad mood, if indulged and expressed, will often make a bad situation worse. Keep this mantra at the front of your mind at all times: you cannot control your partner’s mood but you can influence it, meaning with a strategic response you can increase the likelihood that it will improve, but that won’t happen if your strategy is simply to indulge your own emotional reaction.
You have to become responsible for your OWN mood.. Do you behave one way with your family and another with your friends—and yet another with your co-workers and boss? Those around us exert far more of an influence on who we are than we realize—not by their conscious intention, but by being who they are themselves. Remain critical of your own emotional reactions to our partner’s moods and to make consistent attempts to rationally decide how we want to react.
Think ahead before a situation even occurs: the best thing you can do is simply leave your partner alone. remind yourself that their bad mood isn’t you fault (it’s amazing how easy it is to fall into the trap of believing we have in some way caused our partner’s bad mood even when we haven’t).
It’s only gonna last for a moment. All moods are temporary. The key is to find a place of level-headedness while your partner is in a bad mood. You may feel bad for your partner, as well as bad yourself. Ideally, you’d like to become a person who, when your partner is in a bad mood, remains not only perfectly supportive, but also internally intact. That may mean you need to take some emotional—or even physical—distance from them (the challenge there, of course, is how to do so without seeming to abandon your partner emotionally.
