We aren’t meant to do life alone, ask for help when you need it.
Raise your hand if you sometimes struggle with asking others for help? I’m raising both of my hands, in case you were wondering…. Before I actually get into this post I’d just like to point out that I did a bit of searching through the always helpful streets of Google. I wanted to know how many other articles, blog posts and people were out there that have a hard time asking for help. Here’s what I found:
- Of course other people do!
- It seems as though it’s a bigger issue for introverts (which I am) when it comes to asking for help.
Now let’s dive in!
Whether or not you’re an introvert like me, in general, asking for help can sometimes feel like one of the hardest things to do. Asking for help can make you feel like there’s a giant spotlight pointing out areas of weakness in your life, can make you feel naked with vulnerability and causes you to relinquish the control you feel you have over your own situations. You now depend on someone else.
Personally, I sometimes feel like a nuisance when I position myself to ask someone for help. And who wants to be a nuisance, right?
Asking for help may seem like you’re peering into a window of uncertainty because you don’t always know whether someone will want to extend their hand in helping you. Rejection is real, but it shouldn’t stop you… or me!
We aren’t meant to do life solely riding on the back of self-sufficiency and solitude. Even me, an introvert who loves being by herself 70% of the time, knows that I can’t go through life doing it all on my own. So, then what? Look to your left and look to your right. Who’s in your circle? Who’s in your community?
A good, thriving community works well for a lot of reasons. One of those reasons being they help each other: offering, asking and accepting help.
And you might be reading this thinking, “Uh, excuse you, everybody don’t got it like that.” Well, I challenge you to find your community! Find those connections with people that you can ask for help. It may feel uncomfortable, but in order to grow comfortable with it you have to just do it (shoutout to Nike!).
Asking for help doesn’t make you weak.
Asking for help doesn’t make you a failure.
Asking for help doesn’t make you less self-sufficient.
Asking for help makes you human.
Thanks for reading, and don’t forget… Be great! xoxo
