Own your part in any issue. It’s rarely 100% anybody’s fault. They may have done MOST of the ‘messing up’, but if you have even 1%… own it and confess responsibility to make steps to not repeat it. Conflict that lingers is typically because someone insists on putting 100% of the blame on the other […]

The most powerful person you will ever encounter is someone with discipline and self control. The inability to ‘pull up’ has cost people jobs, marriages, friendships and even their lives. True power is shown by taking the high road when you are fronted on, embarassed, or challenged. It’s keeping your mouth shut when you don’t […]

There’s a Nigerian Proverb that says ‘A heart in love finds a thousand ways. A heart in question finds a thousand excuses’. Show me a person full of excuses as to why they can’t adjust, accommodate, pull up, or compromise for the sake of love, and I will show you a person who is more […]

One day last summer I decided to be ‘that’ husband and accompany my wife as she shopped… all day. I was COMPLETELY overwhelmed, frustrated and just plain tired, but I made a commitment so I stuck with it. On the way home I asked my wife, ‘How can you shop ALL DAY??’. She replied, ‘Well, […]

What do Steve Harvey, Tyler Perry, Ford Motor Company, Walmart and so many other successful brands have in common? Their beginning looked nothing like their end. We tend to exalt the glory of the end PRODUCT over the gruesome journey of the PROCESS. A diamond has value ONLY because of the process. Otherwise, it’s just […]

Take care to monitor your self talk. Internal conversations become external realities. Allowing the wrong thing to simmer on your mind without proper ventilation will inevitably cause an explosion. Just because you didn’t say it doesn’t mean it still doesn’t need to be handled with care. Vent the bad stuff to someone qualified to handle […]

Sometimes a person not believing in you has more to do with a them issue than a you issue. You’ll never fit a mold that wasn’t designed for you. Embrace godly wisdom and know when to stop trying to convince them of who you are and what you bring to the table. You may find […]

If I had eight hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend at least two hours sharpening my ax. YOU are your ax! After a while you will wear out if you don’t take care of yourself. YES, everybody needs something and yes, YOU have to do it … but who will do it if […]

There was a season in my life that I often found myself praying, ‘God, you are all I have!’ The prayer was associated with feelings of severe anxiety. ‘Everything else is gone and all I’m left with is You!’ Eventually God answered my prayer and said, ‘I’m all you have but I’m also all you […]

If you are an evergreen, there is no need to envy the rose bush. Everything has its own season to shine. Be an expert at being you. Don’t abandon who you are just because someone else’s brand is in season right now. The season will come that you may be the only thing standing that […]

Seasons exist because the earth revolves around the sun. So before you declare that you are ‘awaiting your season’ remember you’re always in a season and that season is there based on your position with the ‘SON’. God gives the season. He gives the spring just like He gives the winter. When those undesirable seasons […]