Some parents want to protect their children from the horrible realities of their co-parent. They say things like, ‘Yeah, I know they hurt you, but they really DO love you’. If this is you, allow me to ask you a sobering question. Do you want your child to associate physical abuse, chronic absenteeism and broken promises, verbal abuse or any other negative attribute to LOVE? Ask God to show you the appropriate time, but at some point your child needs to hear real answers to their questions. Not from a place of bitterness or strife, but from a place of love. They need to learn how to handle the sometimes harsh realities from a place of love so that they will not HATE the parent, but understand where they are and love them anyway. To do this, you the parent have to be healed. That way the potential generational cycle can end at your house.
Ezekiel 18:2-3 – and said, “What is this proverb people keep repeating in the land of Israel? ‘The parents ate the sour grapes, But the children got the sour taste.’ “As surely as I am the living God,” says the Sovereign Lord, “you will not repeat this proverb in Israel any more.